Friday, December 05, 2008 18:54:22 GMT It was more than Mom’s nursing home, it was her neighborhood. So, the day before Thanksgiving, I dropped by my late mother’s neighborhood. Often, when a resident dies, the neighborhood mourns not only the loss of the resident, but the loss of her visiting family, as well. That makes [...]
Posts Tagged ‘Death’
Revisiting the Nursing Home, After Mom’s Death
Posted in Mourning, tagged Ann-itudes (+ Attitudes), Caregiver, Caregiving, Death, Eldercare, Fading Life, Laughter, Mourning, Nursing Homes, Positive Attitude on December 5, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
Andy Recorded Advice to His Son
Posted in Gift Ideas, tagged Death, Fading Life, Family, Good Vibes, Legacy, Mourning, Oral Histories, Oral History, Positive Attitude, Priorities, Regrets on November 25, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
Tuesday, November 25, 2008 07:38:33 GMT Andy died a number of years ago. He expected it would happen. Knew it would happen. So before he did, he video taped advice to his son. This wasn’t just a single tape. At the celebration of Andy’s life at his widow’s house, I saw excerpts from the long, [...]
Pacing the “Thinking of You” Messages
Posted in Mourning, Reaching Out, tagged Condolences, Death, Mourning, Reaching Out, Support, Sympathy on October 18, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
Saturday, October 18, 2008 17:47:59 GMT 2 Today I finally threw away the flowers that were sent to me on October 4 from a thoughtful friend thousands of miles away. It was wonderful having the beauty of those flowers remain so long after Mom died on September 19. Whenever I saw them, I smiled. As [...]
Postponed: Redefining Myself
Posted in Mourning, tagged Caregiver, Caregiving, Death, Eldercare, Mourning on October 17, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
Friday, October 17, 2008 20:33:02 GMT My Trusera* profile still says I’m a caregiver. While Mom has since died, I am postponing changing my profile. Perhaps it is kind of like empty nesters finally admitting that “parent” isn’t necessarily their number one role in life anymore (if they ever admit it). Like a parent will [...]
Playing Russian Roulette With Our Own Health (A Teaching Moment)
Posted in Fit-For-Life Pursuit, tagged Accountability, Attititude, Death, Diet, Dieting, Fading Life, Fit for Life, Fitness, Health, Lifestyle Change, Motivation, Nutrition, Owning Our Health, Self Advocacy, Weightloss on October 15, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
Wednesday, Oct 15, 2008 20:59:17 GMT Yesterday I popped into the salon and asked, “When can Garry fit me in for a hair cut?” The gal paused, looked me in the eye and replied, “I’m so sorry. Garry … died several weeks ago. He had a heart attack.” Perplexed. Then bewildered. Then, the WHAM of [...]
P.S. Re. “Reaching Out”
Posted in Mourning, Reaching Out, tagged Death, Mourning, Reaching Out, Recovery Process, Support, Sympathy on October 5, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
Sunday, October 05, 2008 23:23:13 GMT This weekend I received flowers at my door, two weeks after Mom’s funeral. The timing was absolutely perfect! They really boosted my mood. Makes one think, doesn’t it? Belatedly, I had emailed Mom’s obit to my friend in Chicagoland, with a personal note. He responded with the flowers, and [...]
Reaching Out, Selfishly Giving to Strangers, Feels Good
Posted in Mourning, Reaching Out, tagged Death, Eldercare, Fading Life, Mourning, Nursing Homes, Reaching Out on October 4, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
When I felt helpless just a few weeks ago, knowing I was doing every single thing I could for Mom, and there was nothing else I could do for her, I realized, “I still need to do something!” Since I couldn’t help Mom any more than I was, I decided to reach out and help [...]
Reaching Out Makes a Huge Difference, Both Ways: Don’t Hesitate
Posted in Mourning, tagged Death, Mourning, Reaching Out, Recovering, Support on October 4, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
Sunday, October 04, 2008, 15:49:13 GMT Whether you are seeking or giving support, reaching out really does help. For me, the out reach has been amazing, in both ways: requesting and receiving. So, why do we hesitate to ask? Why do we hesitate to give? Intrigued by the awesome two-way power of “Reaching Out,” I [...]
Thank You for Your Good Vibes!
Posted in Mourning, tagged Death, Eldercare, Mourning, Nursing Homes, Stroke on September 22, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
Monday, September 22, 2008 20:43:31 GMT Greetings Everyone on Trusera! This is a collective, “Thank you!” for your thoughts, prayers and kind words during Mom’s fading days, and after her death on Friday morning. I’d really like to respond individually, but there just isn’t time right now. Keep the good vibes coming for my family, [...]
